Having narcissistic traits doesn’t necessarily mean that the person has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).
Studies show that 75% of people who present with NPD are men.
So how do you know if your partner has these behaviors? For starters, a narcissist will fall in love quickly and is very engaging and charming. They want to commit quickly because the faster they commit they feel they won’t be found as self- absorbed and egotistical.
Once you are in a committed relationship, the signs will begin to appear, such as he will begin to criticize, everything they do is right and everything you do is wrong. They don’t appreciate your special traits and it’s all about their greatness.
You often start feeling very lonely and isolated. Being around your family and friends is very difficult because often they either interrupt the conversation, or it goes back to them.
The distortion that they create makes you doubt yourself and you start feeling that you are inadequate. Self-doubt becomes emotionally abusive. The scars are not obvious like physical abuse, therefore you suffer in silence. At this point, they have accomplished the goal of being superior and you therefore begin to question your reality and your judgement.
So why does a narcissist operate this way?
They often had a very disturbed past and may have been abused as a child. The grandiosity is a way to cover up their insecurities and poor self-esteem. The more you feel like a failure, the more their ego is inflated that you can’t live without him.
The next question is why you chose a narcissist?
Most often you had self-centered parents who were very dependent on either their mother or father. Identify being a victim like one of your parents.
How do you stop a relationship that has been created?
• Begin by checking your reality with someone you trust. What is normal or what is abusive behavior?
• The narcissist will isolate you, don’t fall into that trap.
• Set some boundaries such as how they speak to you.
• Become assertive and don’t let them overpower you.
• Be firm in your beliefs and know they are not always right.
• Don’t let him manipulate or distort your words.
• Be assertive.
Getting some professional help to support your efforts will confirm to your partner that you mean business and you won’t tolerate this relationship if it doesn’t change.
Encourage your partner to get help understanding their behavior.
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