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Mental health should be a top priority for everyone, it is a fundamental aspect of our overall health and well-being rather than being seen as a luxury. Just like physical health, mental health plays a vital role in our overall well-being, productivity, and quality of life. Taking care of our mental health involves recognizing and addressing our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It involves managing stress, maintaining healthy relationships, seeking support when needed, practicing self-care, and developing coping strategies to deal with life’s challenges.

Unfortunately, mental health has often been stigmatized or overlooked in many societies, which can prevent individuals from seeking the help and support they need. However, there is a growing awareness of the importance of mental health, and efforts are being made to reduce the stigma and improve access to mental health services. It is essential that we prioritize mental health at both the individual and societal levels. This includes promoting mental health education, destigmatizing mental health conditions, ensuring affordable and accessible mental health care, and fostering supportive environments that encourage open conversations about mental health.

By prioritizing mental health, we can enhance our overall well-being, improve our relationships, increase productivity, and lead fulfilling lives. Everyone deserves to have their mental health needs addressed and supported, and it is crucial that we work collectively to make mental health care accessible, affordable, and a top priority for all.

Relationships and social connections: Good mental health is essential for building and maintaining healthy relationships. Prioritizing mental health allows individuals to communicate effectively, empathize with others, establish boundaries, and foster meaningful connections. Strong social support networks also play a vital role in promoting mental well-being.

Productivity and performance: Taking care of mental health enhances productivity and performance in various areas of life, including work, studies, and personal pursuits. When mental health is prioritized, individuals are better equipped to manage stress, concentrate, problem-solve, and make sound decisions.

Physical health: Mental and physical health are interconnected. Poor mental health can contribute to physical health issues such as cardiovascular problems, weakened immune system, and increased susceptibility to illnesses. Prioritizing mental health can help improve physical health outcomes and overall resilience.

Prevention and early intervention: Prioritizing mental health involves proactive measures such as stress management, self-care practices, and seeking support when needed. By prioritizing mental health, individuals can identify and address potential issues early on, preventing them from escalating into more severe mental health conditions.

Overall well-being: Mental health is a crucial component of overall well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act, and influences our ability to cope with stress, make decisions, maintain relationships, and achieve personal goals. Prioritizing mental health contributes to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

There are many simple and positive paths you can take to improve your mental health:

Self-care: Make self-care a priority in your life. Engage in activities that you enjoy and that promote relaxation and well-being. This can include hobbies, exercise, spending time in nature, reading, practicing mindfulness or meditation, taking warm baths, or any other activities that help you relax and recharge.
Seek support: Reach out to friends, family members, or trusted individuals when you need support. Talking about your feelings and concerns can help alleviate stress and provide a fresh perspective. If needed, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific needs.
Maintain a balanced lifestyle: Strive for balance in your life by establishing healthy habits. This includes getting regular exercise, eating a nutritious diet, prioritizing sufficient sleep, and avoiding excessive alcohol or drug use. A healthy lifestyle can positively impact your mental well-being.
Manage stress: Develop effective stress management techniques. This can involve practicing relaxation techniques like deep breathing exercises, engaging in physical activities, practicing time management skills, setting realistic goals, and learning to prioritize and delegate tasks.
Stay connected: Cultivate and maintain positive relationships. Spend time with loved ones, engage in social activities, join community groups or clubs, or participate in support groups. Connecting with others can provide emotional support, reduce feelings of loneliness, and enhance your overall well-being.
Practice mindfulness: Incorporate mindfulness techniques into your daily routine. Mindfulness involves focusing on the present moment without judgment. It can be practiced through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply by being fully present in your daily activities. Mindfulness can help reduce stress, increase self-awareness, and improve overall mental well-being.
Set boundaries: Learn to set healthy boundaries in your personal and professional life. This includes saying no when necessary, prioritizing your own needs, and not overextending yourself. Setting boundaries helps prevent burnout and promotes self-care.

Remember that taking care of your mental health is an ongoing process. It’s important to be patient with yourself and to seek help when needed. Everyone’s journey is unique, so find the strategies that work best for you and incorporate them into your daily life.

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Life after divorce can be a challenging time, but it can also be a time for personal growth and new beginnings. You will likely go through many stages of emotional and practical ups and downs. At the end of the day, there is no road map of rights and wrongs, its a personal journey.

Emotional Healing

Divorce often brings a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and grief. It’s essential to allow yourself time and space to heal emotionally. Seek support from friends, family, or even a therapist who can help you process your feelings and provide guidance during this time.

Self-Reflection

Take the opportunity to reflect on your own needs, desires, and goals. Rediscover yourself and consider what you want out of life moving forward. Use this time to reconnect with your own identity and explore new interests or hobbies. What makes you happy and brings you joy?

Co-Parenting

If you have children, co-parenting may be a significant aspect of your life after divorce. It’s crucial to maintain open communication with your ex-spouse for the well-being of your children. Focus on creating a stable and nurturing environment for them, and be willing to work together for their best interests.

Rebuilding Social Connections

Divorce can often lead to changes in social circles. Reach out to friends, join new social groups, or engage in activities that interest you. Building a support network can provide emotional support, companionship, and a sense of belonging.

Financial Adjustments

Divorce can have significant financial implications. Assess your new financial situation and develop a budget that aligns with your current circumstances. It may be necessary to make adjustments to your lifestyle and spending habits. Don’t try to have the life you had before the divorce immediately, take it slowly, it’s not worth getting into debt or make big financial decisions when you are still figuring out what your new life will be.

Self-Care

Focus on self-care to nurture your physical and mental well-being. Prioritize activities that bring you joy, such as exercise, hobbies, meditation, or spending time in nature. Taking care of yourself will help you regain your emotional strength and resilience. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Practice self-compassion by acknowledging your feelings, being patient with yourself, and practicing self-care without guilt.

Seeking out support is a perfect way to practice self-care, reach out to a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and support as you navigate your emotions. Support groups or online communities can also be beneficial for connecting with others who may be going through similar experiences. Practice mindfulness; take time each day to be present in the moment and observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment, meditation or breathing exercises can be helpful in cultivating awareness and reducing stress.

Looking forward – Setting New Goals

As you embark on this new chapter, set new goals for yourself. Whether they are personal, professional, or related to relationships, having goals can provide you with a sense of direction and purpose. Break them down into smaller, manageable steps to make progress and celebrate your achievements along the way.

If you need help navigating this life changing time, talk to a BCS therapist. bcsnygroup.com/appointments

Many men who become new dads feel isolated, they also feel they lose friends during this time period.

For both men and women, there are several different ways first-time parenthood can impact your physical and psychological health. For new fathers this may include everything from exercising less to gaining weight, and indulging in unhealthy eating and drinking habits.

It can be really energized becoming a dad, however, there will be emotional and practical challenges, and there may be a struggle to find information or support. Men can definitely experience some symptoms of postpartum depression, but as it is either unusual, or not talked about in the mainstream, it is difficult to navigate and difficult to find help and resources. Sleep deprivation, increased financial responsibility, strain on your personal relationships and the needs of your child are just some of your new potential sources of stress and anxiety as a new parent. “A lot of life changes very quickly,” fathers need exposure to these changes and the best ways to handle them, long before the baby arrives in order to be better prepared.

Men need to realise they should also can reach out for help, and these feelings are not forever.

If you need help: https://bcsnygroup.com/appointments/

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Every woman has the ability to make a difference in the community in which they live.

As well as impacting the people we encounter every day on some level, we’re role models for our daughters, granddaughters, sisters, nieces and friends. Helping to make a positive change in the lives of others is especially important during this time of COVID-19, when so many people are stressed and under financial, emotional and all other kinds of stress and anxiety.

If you’re wondering how you can contribute to your community, remember it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, things you may take for granted could make all the difference in someones life.

Here’s one uplifting example:

“Susan, a stay at home mom, who has 3 children at school was exploring ways that she could contribute to her community. Having to be home for her children meant that she had limited free time to offer, but she still wanted to give back. One day, she found the opportunity to volunteer at a canned food drive that was run by one of the local community programs. Susan couldn’t believe how fulfilling it was to help other people. When she met with the person in charge of the food pantry, she presented the idea of distributing food to seniors in the community who are unable to leave their homes”.

Imagine how rewarding this experience was for Susan, and how her actions could influence the women in her life? When you perform an act of selflessness, and give your time and energy to others, you’re not only helping people but setting an example. Paying it forward is such an important life lesson and a great message to share. No act of kindness can ever be too small, whether it’s helping a person in your community, with poor vision, across the street or assisting someone who is struggling to make a doctor’s appointment.

In the words of Oprah: “When we think only about ourselves, we live a half-life, when we give back, we live a full life”.

Article by Nicolletta Pallotta. CEO, Founder.

Life has a way of teaching us how to love ourselves through aging, an inevitable metamorphosis, whether we accept it or not.

I’m 69 years old. I’m proud of who I am, what i have achieved, and what i have contributed to my community. My age has never defined me, how i look, how I dress, how I act.

I know women who are younger than I am, that seem… well, older some how. This led me to a theory; maybe the way we perceive age is mainly, in part, due to how the women who raised us also perceived it? As child, I grew up with sisters who where 20 years older than me, through my eyes, the women in my family always seemed old and looked old. I thought they represented aging as slowing down until death.

I personally, like to perceive getting old as a promotion, or a victory celebrating what I have overcome throughout my life. What I began to understand was that maybe the resentment of aging is more psychological than physical. I am convinced that aging is not the end of a beautiful thing, but is the beautiful thing itself.

In spite of my upbringing, I am learning to dwell in the present, embracing each phase of my life for what it is, and what it has to offer, without resenting the years that I have yet to be graced with. When we grow older, we tend to only think of the end, we can lose sight of the fact that life is not about preparing for the end, but how we seize the years in between.

There will be days when I do not recognize the face of the woman I see in the mirror, although her eyes look the same. Despite that, I have decided that I will be mindful even now, not to burden my older years with dread. I know who I am, and i will not let my age or society dictate what I should be. I will live in the moment, and i will live my life to the fullest.

Nicoletta Pallotta.

Article written 2021.

Sadness is an emotion often defined as a ‘transient emotional state’ which can include feelings such as disappointment, grief, hopelessness and disinterest. Like other emotions, sadness is something we all experience from time to time. but when we experience prolonged or severe sadness that is when it can turn into depression.

Depression differs from sadness in its intensity, frequency, and duration.

Intensity; While the event would make most people sad, you respond with a much deeper level of sadness. It is too intense. Your sadness moves outside the normal range of response. Frequency; Your sadness may not be out of proportion, but it is recurrent. You seem to get over it, and then it comes back. This repetitive cycle becomes a pattern in your life. Duration; Your sadness comes and it stays and stays. The sadness lasts much longer than it does for most other people in similar circumstances.

People with depression do not all experience the same symptoms. How severe, frequent, or how long they last will vary, depending on the individual and circumstances.

Here are common symptoms people with depression experience:

Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
Fatigue and decreased energy, feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness
Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism
Insomnia, early morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping
Irritability, restlessness, loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex

If you feel you might be suffering from Depression, mild or otherwise, contact us now to see if talking to a therapist might help you.

Schedule an Appointment

You may be feeling a bit anxious about your first online therapy session, but there’s no secret step-by-step guide to this process, and it’s also okay if you aren’t fully clear on your goals or what you’re hoping to get from the experience, that can all be part of the process.

Online Counseling appointments are confidential, therefore, the use of a private computer, tablet or smartphone in a quiet environment is strongly encouraged.

Be prepared:

Be ontime, may be aim to be all set up 5 minutes before your start time, incase you forgot something.
Be dressed appropriately in comfortable clothing, but remember, you are entering your therapists virtual place of work, so pajamas or revealing outfits may not be appreciated.
Having a glass of water or a cup of coffee is a good idea, but alcohol or smoking may appear disrespectful.
Furbabies are always welcome to join, as long as they don’t draw your attention away from the connection with your therapist.
Please do not answer phone calls, text or surf the web during the appointment,unless something urgent is occuring.
You are encouraged to speak openly and honestly, the online space is private and secure. it is important you feel emotionally safe, heard and cared for.
Remember, if something feels a bit off during your session, feel empowered to speak up about it. If you are not comfortable bringing it up with your therapist, contact us on 718 232 8600 or email intake@bcsnygroup.com.

Your Therapist:

Your Therapist will endeavor to be on time, but sometimes through unforeseen circumstances, they may be a little late to join, please give them a few minutes grace before you leave the session.
Your Therapist will be dressed appropriately and be professional at all times.
Your Therapist will not answer phone calls, text or surf the web during the appointment.
Your Therapist will be respectful when communicating with you at all times.
Your Therapist reserves the right to end a video session if a client engages in behavior deemed inappropriate, offensive and/or discriminatory.

If there is a concern around your therapists approach, actions or focus of care, please mention it. If you don’t feel comfortable bringing this up in your session, reach out to our team on 718 232 8600 or email intake@bcsnygroup.com to address your concerns.

In Conclusion:

We are here to help you. Give yourself time to embrace this addition to your self-care schedule. Everyone experiences therapy differently, and with time and effort, you will reap the emotional benefits therapy will give you.

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An article by Nicoletta Pallotta, MD, LCSW.

The challenges that women deal with are often directly related to their gender; sexism, stereotyping, motherhood, childbirth issues, infertility struggles etc.

As a society we like to think that we’ve achieved ‘equality’, but the truth is the way women experience life and are perceived in life, is still very different to men.

Traditionally perceived gender roles are something we’ll never truly escape. There is inherent pressure on women to balance career and family, and this is something that affects women across the globe. If you have children, you probably undergo immense guilt when unavoidable parental obligations interrupt your working day, even if a 60-hour week is your norm, deep down you may still think this way. All this in addition to the general predicament of feeling undervalued both at home and at work.

If you feel like you need help in dealing with any aspect of life, there’s a lot to be said for talking to someone of the same sex. Female therapists get it, because they live it. They understand. This is not to say that male therapists aren’t amazing and don’t add value, but when you’re dealing with sensitive subjects that are unique to women (and even when you’re not) it can be comforting, and easier to talk to a female counselor who can personally relate to much of what you’re going through.

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Hot flashes, depression, insomnia or other symptoms, are called the menopausal transition, or peri-menopause.

The menopausal transition most often begins between ages 45 and 55. It usually lasts about 7 years but can last as long as 14 years. During the menopausal transition, the body’s production of estrogen and progesterone, two hormones made by the ovaries, varies greatly. Bones become less dense, making women more vulnerable to fractures. During this period, too, the body begins to use energy differently, fat cells change, and women may gain weight more easily.

Menopause may be triggered by a hysterectomy or surgical removal of the ovaries, which produce hormones. If you have surgery to remove your ovaries or uterus and are not taking hormones, you will experience the symptoms of menopause immediately.

This time in a woman’s life is often full of other transitions—not just physical ones. Women may be caring for aging parents or relatives, supporting their children as they move into adulthood, or taking on new responsibilities at work.

Is It Menopause?

If you are having symptoms commonly associated with the menopausal transition, your doctor may ask questions about your age, symptoms, and family history to determine if it really is the menopausal transition causing your symptoms. In some cases, your doctor may suggest a blood test to check your follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and estradiol (E2) levels to rule out any other causes for the changes you’re experiencing.

The menopausal transition, sometimes called perimenopause, begins several years before a woman’s last period. During this time, women may experience spotty menstrual cycles, hot flashes, and other changes. While this time is commonly referred to as “menopause,” menopause doesn’t happen until 1 year after the final menstrual period.

After menopause, women enter post-menopause. Post-menopausal women are more vulnerable to heart disease and osteoporosis. At this time, it is important to eat a healthy diet and make sure you get lots of calcium to keep your bones strong.

A woman who doesn’t want to get pregnant should continue to use birth control for at least a full 12 months after her last period.

Learn more about the signs and symptoms of menopause. Looking for some relief? Read about options to reduce hot flashes and ways to get a better night’s sleep.

The 5 stages of grief:

1. 1. 1. Denial
    2. Anger
    3. Bargaining
    4. Depression
    5. Acceptance

Denial

Denial is a normally an immediate and temporary response, that carries you through the first wave of pain, you might even doubt the reality of the loss at first. But when you are ready, the feelings and emotions you have denied will surface, and your healing journey will commence.

Anger

It is common to feel anger toward the situation or person you lost. In reality, you understand the person isn’t to blame, but emotionally, you may feel like you resent them for leaving you.

Bargaining

Guilt might rear its head during this stage, your emotions might be trying to regain some control. Non of this is uncommon and as hard as it might feel, this helps you face the reality of your loss.

Depression

Depression, or sadness, is a natural and appropriate response to grief. As you start to face the reality of your loss, the realization may lead you to feel varying degrees sadness to great despair.

Acceptance

An important stage. Accepting the loss you’ve experienced, learning to live with it, and how you will readjust your life accordingly. This may not be the end of your grief, moving back-and-forth between these stages is natural and a part of the healing process. Everyone is different, don’t try to rush it.

Everyone experiences grief differently, you might feel your own grieving process isn’t going “according to the norm” but there is no such thing as a right or wrong way to grieve while of coping with loss.

If you feel you might need a little extra help dealing with grief, contact us now to schedule an appointment with a fully trained and compassionate therapist: APPOINTMENTS

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mental health should always be a priority not a luxury.

There are many simple and positive paths you can take to improve your mental health:

Life after divorce

Life after divorce can be a challenging time, but it can also be a time for personal growth and new beginnings. You will likely go through many stages of emotional and practical ups and downs. At the end of the day, there is no road map of rights and wrongs, its a personal journey.

Emotional Healing

Self-Reflection

Co-Parenting

Rebuilding Social Connections

Financial Adjustments

Self-Care

Looking forward – Setting New Goals

Becoming a father can negatively impact a man’s mental health

Women Making a Difference

Every woman has the ability to make a difference in the community in which they live.

If you’re wondering how you can contribute to your community, remember it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, things you may take for granted could make all the difference in someones life.

Here’s one uplifting example:

Living my life, ageless

Depression or Sadness?

Depression differs from sadness in its intensity, frequency, and duration.

How To Prepare For your Online Therapy

The benefits of female therapists for women

The challenges that women deal with are often directly related to their gender; sexism, stereotyping, motherhood, childbirth issues, infertility struggles etc.

The Journey of Menopause

Hot flashes, depression, insomnia or other symptoms, are called the menopausal transition, or peri-menopause.

5 stages of grief

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

Everyone experiences grief differently, you might feel your own grieving process isn’t going “according to the norm” but there is no such thing as a right or wrong way to grieve while of coping with loss.

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