Nearly 1 in 10 women in the United States have experienced sexual assault by an intimate partner in her lifetime, and about 1 out of every 3 women have been in an abusive relationship. Among those who have faced sexual assault, stalking, or physical violence from a partner, 81% report serious short or long-term effects. like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or physical injuries.
If you’re concerned about your situation, here are 10 warning signs that might indicate abuse:
- Stalking or monitoring: Constantly questioning where you are or insisting it’s for your protection.
- Excessive calls or texts: Checking on you nonstop, under the guise of “worrying about your safety.”
- Financial control: Demanding a detailed account of how you spend your money.
- Unrelenting criticism: Finding fault with everything you do, no matter how small.
- Public humiliation: Insulting or belittling you in front of others, including family and friends.
- Easily angered: Especially when alcohol is involved.
- Coerced or forced sex: Pressuring or forcing you to have sex against your will.
- Physical violence: Hitting, punching, or using any other form of physical harm.
- Extreme jealousy: Feeling threatened by your friendships or outside relationships.
- Isolation: Keeping you away from friends, family, or other supportive relationships.
If even one of these signs rings true for you, please know you may be in an abusive relationship. It can be incredibly difficult to leave or even acknowledge what’s happening, but you are not alone—and there is help available.
Don’t Ignore the Problem: Make a Safety Plan
During calm phases, it’s normal to hope that your partner’s behavior will change. Unfortunately, abuse can resurface at any time, so having a plan in place is crucial. Consider these steps:
- Reach out for help: Find a local shelter, call a hotline, or look into legal resources to know your options in advance.
- Prepare an emergency bag: Include items like extra cash, a checkbook, your savings account information, IDs, insurance cards, and a list of important contacts.
- Hide it well: Keep your emergency bag in a place your abuser won’t think to look.
- Plan your escape route: Know exactly where you can go and how you’ll get there—even if it’s the middle of the night.
- Take action if you feel unsafe: If it comes to a moment of danger, leave immediately and bring your children with you.
- Call 911 if you’re in immediate danger.
Remember, you’re worthy of safety, respect, and support. You don’t have to face this alone—there are people, organizations, and hotlines ready to help you. Stay safe, and please reach out for help whenever you need it.
